Authors: Lisa Hultin and Claire Hultin (Mother and Daughter)
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
Publish Date: July 15, 2010
Paperback, 218 pages
ISBN-10: 1600377750
ISBN-13: 978-1600377754
Amazon description:
Have you ever had an unforgettable date? Sure you have! But did he arrive dressed as Elvis and it wasn't Halloween? What about the guy who said, "I'm divorced" but failed to mention having since remarried? Learn how to be a savvy shopper of the online-dating menu and gain the important return on investment anyone makes - your affection, trust, and time - with “Love, Sex, & Deception!”
Mother and daughter team Lisa and Claire Hultin compare notes and collect real life experiences based on their own experiences, and those of other men and women who are dipping their toes into online dating, in order to expose the real "cyber-scene." They share insight, tips, tricks and entertaining stories that reveal the perils and successes you can encounter while navigating through the Internet jungle.
Whether finding true love or great sex, or both, “Love, Sex, & Deception” provides positive strategies, as well as cautionary clues, using real-life dispatches from “dating limbo.” Helpful, hilarious, dramatic...the narratives provide a titillating bird’s eye view of what you will encounter. Reality is the best education!
My Take: When Rebecca of The Cadence Group contacted me to do a review of this book, I immediately said, "As a veteran of online dating (both thinking it was fabulous and then becoming entirely disenchanted), I would absolutely love to read someone else's take on what to me is an experience I wouldn't want to repeat LOL!".
This is a quirky collection of anecdotes from actual people who have tried online dating; some experiences were good, some not-so, and SOME ... well, there were a couple of guy tales that I just think they made up, since they read like fantasy excerpts! But .. I did enjoy reading these. At the end of many of these stories, the authors have written cautionary or encouraging words to the reader. For instance:
This is such a great example of how love can prevail if we just throw away our list of check boxes. All of those "must be tall," "must be well traveled," "must be," "should be". If we look at our own reflection, we can probably see many mistakes and regrets we made as a result of simply being human. Next time we meet someone, let us take a lesson from this former priest, let go of our judgments, simply be present, and let our heart lead the way.
It was entertaining to read such a variety of stories; some heartwarming, some rather hilarious! I would recommend it as a fun, quick read, especially if you are considering the world of online dating, as the authors provide very sound advice (you'll date a lot of frogs to get to the prince or princess).
Book Rating. 3.5 out of 5 stars
The authors were kind enough to provide me with a guest post with answers to some of my (rather lame; I'm not that creative LOL) questions:
Biggest reason you’ve seen for people to try online dating
It seems as if everyone has tried online dating at least once! These days everyone knows at least one couple who met online, fell in love, and tied the knot. One of the biggest reasons people have tried online dating is because of the convenience of searching for a prospect. With one click of the mouse, you can literally peek out of your window to see that the globe has shrunk into your backyard, erasing geographical borders and cultural barriers. Perhaps the appeal is the exotic or magical quality of a potential cyber-romance, nurtured in the privacy of your own home or office as you search for a prospect. After all, where else can you quickly, safely, relatively, and anonymously find someone that matches your wish list? For the younger set online dating or "facebooking" is all about finding the new kids on campus or social networking. They are mostly looking to find a new friend to have fun with. The older crowd is looking for a viable companion. 75% of people online are really looking for a fulfilling relationship. If traditional means of meeting someone is not bringing cupid into the picture then online dating is a great supplement for a persons dating rotation. There is an appealing quality of meeting people you would not otherwise cross paths with in your daily life.
My most outrageous story? One of my own….
It seems as if everyone has tried online dating at least once! These days everyone knows at least one couple who met online, fell in love, and tied the knot. One of the biggest reasons people have tried online dating is because of the convenience of searching for a prospect. With one click of the mouse, you can literally peek out of your window to see that the globe has shrunk into your backyard, erasing geographical borders and cultural barriers. Perhaps the appeal is the exotic or magical quality of a potential cyber-romance, nurtured in the privacy of your own home or office as you search for a prospect. After all, where else can you quickly, safely, relatively, and anonymously find someone that matches your wish list? For the younger set online dating or "facebooking" is all about finding the new kids on campus or social networking. They are mostly looking to find a new friend to have fun with. The older crowd is looking for a viable companion. 75% of people online are really looking for a fulfilling relationship. If traditional means of meeting someone is not bringing cupid into the picture then online dating is a great supplement for a persons dating rotation. There is an appealing quality of meeting people you would not otherwise cross paths with in your daily life.
My most outrageous story? One of my own….
INEPT MR. HARVARD
I was drinking my coffee and checking emails, my usual routine, when I noticed a handsome face on my screen from match.com. His profile said “Graduate of Harvard Business School and Retiring McKenzie Consulting Partner.” Hmm… a man with a big bulge—and in his back pocket, which doesn’t hurt! Some things might just taste better rich, like chocolate, coffee, beef bourguignon, and men. I thought that forty-eight was awful young to be retiring, but everyone lies about their age online, right? I know I did, so who was I to judge? We met, and I found him fascinating with impeccable credentials. He told me he never went to a party in college because all he did was study, and he graduated magna cum laude. I told him that all I ever did in college was party and I barely graduated. We had a lot in common—NOT!
I had never dated anyone so brilliant and smart. It was a little intimidating. We dated for a few months. Once, he gave me a report he had published in the Harvard Business Review. He told me to read it so we would have something to discuss. It was the business matrix model of a Fortune 500 company—not exactly some Fabio-covered easy-reading Harlequin paperback. It was all I could do to hold back the laughter because he was dead serious about having “something to discuss.” I thought, OK… socially introverted nerd meets fun-loving, gregarious, big-hair ex-beauty queen. You guessed it! We would have never dated in high school. He was really handsome and such a genius, but he always said the wrong things and had no sense of humor. For every ounce of book smarts he had, he lost an ounce of social charisma. And the fact that he did not drink any alcohol didn’t help. Unfortunately, he was not a foodie and pizza was high on his list. As a matter of fact, on one of our dates at a pizza joint I mentioned that I needed to bring a pizza home to my kids for dinner. After dinner, I also mentioned I left my purse in his car. “I’ll go out and get your purse.” he said. What odd behavior for a man who bragged about making $1,000,000 a year and drove a $70,000 car! Get my purse? What about pulling out that wallet of yours, Mr. Harvard man? I actually mentioned that I thought it was cheap of him, and in response, I received a thirty-minute analytical lecture of why it was not his responsibility to pay for his girlfriend’s kids’ dinner. I paid the $12 and took the pizza home. He was a complete genius with no common sense. He just could not understand why he didn’t get any that night, but sometimes you get what you give.
We continued to date, trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, so to speak. The mother of all intellectual flubbers came as we were making love when he wanted to solve math problems in the middle of trying to get me to reach an orgasm. “Oh, baby the square root of 38 is OOOOHHHH!” Should I scream or should I laugh? Actually, I didn’t know the answer, so I just screamed and moaned. Hell, I needed a calculator in bed with this man! Our final date ended when I went to Florida to his home before it sold due to the divorce. We had a wonderful dinner in Key West , and I had put on a sexy nightie. “I’ll be right up,” he said. “I just need to check my business emails,” In spite of our previous difficult equation, there I was all dressed ready to give him a happy ending. Finally, I went to check on him, only to discover that the “business emails” he was looking at were from match.com. To say the least, there was definitely a hurricane swarming in that household that evening. There was no intellectual reasoning (which the devil couldn’t beat him at), nothing analytical, nor even a bold-faced lie that would have salvaged that relationship after that. I promptly took the guest bedroom and flew home the next morning. It was a disaster I should have seen coming. After all, good sex should never involve solving for a problem! - Lisa in Sandy Springs, Georgia
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(Ahh the looks-good-on-paper guy. This guy is so tempting to many of us women and I blame it all on Clark Kent with his befuddled looks and his knowing blue eyes peering out of those nerdy little spectacles. The problem is that while intelligence is a turn-on- we really want Superman. Deep down we want a man that is going to throw us over their back, fly us to their cave…er home, and tear off our clothing. Not someone who is pontificating the square root of pi. They usually say God giveth with one hand and taketh with the other, and the case is certainly true for this bloke. Like the pretty girl who never had to develop a personality, it goes to show we should never judge a book by its cover- even if it’s from Hahhh-vahhhd.)
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Disclosure: The Cadence Group provided me with a copy of this title to objectively review. I received no further compensation, and any opinions expressed are my own.
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